Signs a woman is interested in you
Whether or not you are already involved with a woman, there are signs that are reasonably reliable about her interest. They are not hard rules, but in many cases they tell you something about how she sees you. If need be, you can then rethink your own approach to move from «friend» to «partner». Here they are, in three groups.
If you are not together yet
There is no romance between you, but you clearly have her attention. These are the signs that are rarely wrong.
Signs and body language
Looks and gestures — everything in the register of body language — can be a woman’s way of drawing you in. In particular, someone who enjoys looking at you is already drawn. She usually does it discreetly. Then again, a woman can be interested and deliberately ignore you: for some people that is how you get yourself sought out. So these signs are not fixed.
Besides looking straight into your eyes, some people keep glancing away. Many women do it instinctively out of shyness. She may also lower her eyes after looking at you — more often awkwardness than indifference.
Still in the register of body language: an interested woman will keep seeking contact. Beyond conversations through a screen, she will do what she can not to miss a chance to meet in person. She won’t hesitate to touch your arm or let her leg brush against yours.
Her behaviour
A woman who is drawn to someone usually has a hard time hiding it in front of them. Even if you are not together, she will take an interest in your daily life. If she regularly asks what you ate, how your day went, you don’t need to look far.
She usually has no trouble starting a conversation. Anything that lets her interact with you is useful to her. She may even be a little clingy. She will tease you about anything, invent games to draw you out of your shell. For her these are reasons to be near you, on a screen and in the real world.
At the same time she is not afraid to be seen with you in public. For an interested woman, introducing you to her friends and acquaintances is a point of pride; she takes it on almost as a challenge.
She will also make an effort with how she looks. She takes deliberate care so that you like her, and each time she is about to see you she turns up as her best version. She already sees you as a possible partner.
If you are together
Even while she is with you, a woman may keep up her flirting — and that is exactly what keeps the flame going. Here too there are signs that your partner still cares.
How she is in front of others
The friendship threshold has been crossed and you are now a couple. A woman who genuinely likes you will not take that as given. If she used to enjoy telling those close to her about you, she will do it more often now. To your circle and to hers, she introduces herself as your partner.
It is also her way of saying she is not ashamed of you — on the contrary, she is proud to be at your side. A woman who owns the relationship and enjoys being seen with you is a woman who is invested.
She may also be jealous. That is a sign she is afraid of losing you. But it needs saying plainly: jealousy must not go too far. Losing her temper at every shred of suspicion is not proof of love, it is a problem in its own right. A little jealousy now and then is something else.
How she behaves towards you
An invested woman does not live the relationship for today only. She makes plans for tomorrow with you; which means she includes you in her plans and takes part in yours. If your partner starts talking about you in the future tense and says «we» more often than «I», she genuinely cares. She may even talk about children later on — a sign she pictures a future with you, not a passing thing.
While with you she also keeps taking care of how she looks, as at the start. She wants you to keep seeing in her the person who first drew you in.
A woman who gives you presents is taking an interest in you. For an occasion or for nothing at all, she may give you something. All the more so if the gift is personalised. Usually an object such as:
- a watch or a bracelet
- a printed T-shirt
- a cap
- a tie
- a portrait
- a jumper
These small things say that you are the only one in her eyes. Some gestures and small attentions look trivial, but she takes them seriously. She may sulk because you forgot to call or to say goodnight.
Conversely, when you make an effort, she will thank you — proof that your presence has value and that this relationship matters to her. Above all, if she pays attention to what you need and takes an interest in the details of your life, she is genuinely attached: she wants to make your life easier and to be alongside what you are doing.
If you have separated
You were involved with a woman and it didn’t work. You wonder whether the person you now call your «ex» still cares. Here too there are signs.
Being friends with someone who was a partner is possible. But when the friendly gestures become too many, it is fair to ask whether the feelings are still there. If after separating she often calls just to ask how you are, the feelings probably haven’t gone. She may also send short messages for no particular reason — for the conversation itself.
If after separating she keeps saying she loves you, believe her. Beyond words: a woman who still makes time for you still holds you high. She is not sparing with her feelings, her time and her energy where you are concerned.
You see one or several of these signs in a woman? It is hard to doubt that she cares. Even so, don’t make it a rule: the signs set out here are subjective and can differ a great deal from one person to the next. The rest is up to you — and to the small voice telling you this is the one.
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